Hello readers, another foray into my romantic exploits. I have, for the best part of a year now, been trying my hand at online dating. And even after that much time I still don’t know what to make of it… Firstly, it’s the ultimate breeding-ground for human nature’s shallow instincts to unveil themselves. Both genders will primarily (I’ve found myself doing this too) judge prospective “matches” on their photos more so than their qualities etc. It’s incredibly unfair on all, as photos don’t necessarily do a person justice and they certainly don’t carry a morsel of true personality.
I have had profiles on several sites from paying ones to free ones, from generalist ones to specific. For instance, I’ve used Oasis and OKCupid as well as POF, ChristianMingle and Badoo. The general ones are my least favoured, despite having the largest ponds to trawl, they’re the most difficult to find like-minded people. But then when you narrow it down, by spirituality as I have, you massively limit your options. One of my current favourites is a small one called CatholicDatingforFree.com as it always ensures I’m speaking to someone who must have some kind of urge to keep their faith. There are other pluses too – for example, I just received a message back recently from a lass in the USA, it was just a kind, polite intro message, but had it been on any of the larger sites, I don’t think I would have received any such message because women in particular just seem to be bombarded by everything from bots to one-night-stand invitations from countless men they don’t know. Really doing our gender a favour there gents…
Mostly though, it’s been grim news through these sites. There’s been an absolute wealth of women who just point-blank ignore you despite being online themselves. Not even a courtesy note to explain why they might not be interested. Arguably, the very worst are the false-hopers. These are peculiar ones, that are happy to message you, but either stop randomly, or as soon as you try to mention meeting in person. Something that is lost on me. Is it bad that I’ve been on several of these sites for a year and not been on one single date as a result? I can probably count the women I’ve had a decent online conversation with on one hand too.
The funny thing is, unlike a lot of women, I’m not ashamed or embarrassed of meeting someone online – we use the Internet for pretty much everything else anyway! However, I do think there is little point in having endless conversations in online dating forums; if you do this, there will be nothing to talk about when you meet the real person!! After all, first-dates are meant to be a little awkward because it throws two strangers together – if you already know each other better than a relative would, how’s that going to work?! That’s my opinion at any rate.
For the time being, I’ll keep lurking on these sites, every-so-often messaging a few lasses and then forget I did, because I never expect (and rarely receive) any responses. As always, take care.